TRIBUTE: Goodnight to my baby sister, Stacey Yvette Johnson-Wright

On Friday June 5, 2009 between 8pm and 9pm my baby sister passed away.

What I learned in one swift overnight moment is that all of the things that we go back and forth about mean nothing. The only thing that means anything is LOVE and LIFE! Do it really really matter if he or she [whom you are looking for] earns less than a given amount? My baby sister is gone and no amount of what I or anyone else earns will ever bring her back.

What I learned in one swift overnight moment is that all of the things that we disagree on mean nothing. The only thing that we were put on this earth for is to serve our heavenly father and to CLING to each other. Because I believe one thing that does not fall in line with what you believe in does that make me any less of a man? Does that bring question to me in any way? My baby sister is gone and I will never even get to talk to her again, let alone disagree with her. I will never get the chance to ask her a question or have her ask me a question.

What I have learned in one swift overnight moment is that all of the things that we claim are deal breakers, so what? The only reason that they are dealbreakers is not because we know we can't put up with or deal with them. They reason that they are dealbreakers for us is all PURELY SELFISH. We don't want to deal with them. My baby sisters is gone and I would put up with anything that is thrown my way if I thought for a half a heart beat that it would bring her back. Absolutely anything!

What I have learned in one swift overnight moment is that all of the walls that we put up is due to nothing but fear. Fear of opening up and allowing LOVE, LIFE and LAUGHTER in our lives all based on what has happened before that we just all cannot seem to get past and allow to paralyze us. My baby sister is gone and I would give anything to hear her laughter just one more time. To hear the life in her voice just one more time or to feel the love that she radiates just one more time.

What I have learned in one swift overnight moment is that NOTHING IN LIFE MATTERS! Get past the pain. Get past the heartache. Get past the hurt. LOVE as God has commanded us to love. Life is a gift that is to be cherished and not taken for granted. Certainly not wasted in wallowing in the past. My baby sister is gone I will never be allowed to share my life with her or show my love to her ever again.

What I have learned in one swift overnight moment is that you should not EVER put parameters on a relationship. EVER! Brothers, if she [be it your wife, mom, significant other, aunt, cousin, sister or daughter] wants another piece of dessert, that purse, those shoes, that necklace or anything else you can think of will it REALLY do so much to you to get up and go make it happen? Sisters, if he [be it your husband, dad, significant other, uncle, cousin, brother or son] wants that camera, that x-box, that ipod, another child even will it really do so much damage to you to find a way to let him have it? My baby sister is gone and as I walk through the grief process I am recalling that there was nothing that my baby sister wanted that I did not do or give her if I was humanly able to. I recall telling my brother in law that one day he and I were going to have a sit down and I was going to tell him everything that I had ever did to make his wife spoiled. Now that she is gone I am glad to have done it all. Because in one swift moment my baby sister is gone and now that I won't get the chance, I'm glad I took advantage when I did have the chance.

WHAT I LEARNED IN ONE SWIFT OVERNIGHT MOMENT IS THAT WE NEED TO GET OVER IT, LET IT GO, GET PAST IT. LEARN TO LIVE AND LAUGH AND LOVE EACH OTHER...

BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE

BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE

BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE

As I write the numbness has now turned into tears so I know that the reality is now hitting me. Please DON'T WAIT UNTIL IT IS TOO LATE!

Goodnight my baby sister Stacey Yvette Johnson-Wright
April 14, 1970 - June 5, 2009

I love you and miss you already.